@jdp23@blahaj.zone might be I can't send messages to you. Not sure if it's a Sharkey thing or a blahaj.zone thing.

Seems to work! WHy did you think it didn't?

Sharkey is kind of a mess these days, sigh.

@julian@community.nodebb.org

@jdp23@blahaj.zone ah okay great! Just wasn't sure because I didn't get your replies (if any, but now I'm guessing you probably just +1'd them which I don't handle yet!)

@julian@community.nodebb.org no, no, i just edited my post, I was confused ... in fact it wasn't working, I'll try from a Mastodon account

Speaking of the principle of least surprise ... @jdp23 is post got auto-boosted by @activitypub but there wasn't anything that indicated to me that was going to happen.

And, from GoToSocial, the topic's subject shows up nicely from Julian, @jdp23's reply lost the topic, but it showed back up in Julian's reply to the (topicless) reply ... Behavior's similar on Sharkey, although the subject doesn't render as nicely (but it's still readable)

With the @thenexusofprivacy account on Glitch, the subjects don't show up at all -- not even in Julian's original post.

@stefan @julian

And also speaking of biolations of the principle of least surprise: it's interesitng to look at how these posts do and don't show up on the Discourse thread at https://socialhub.activitypub.rocks/t/chats-are-now-federating-as-limited-visibility-posts-on-the-fediverse/4650/15 ...

• Julian's posts are all fine, no surprise, but a good sign for Discourse/NodeBB federation.

• @jdp23's posts show up twice on that thread.

• @nexus;s post didn't show up

Now how about this post from Mastodon?

@stefan @julian

@jdp23 @julian

"I think you ran into this as well?"

I only recall the situation you just described, when I received a mention without being included.

But I have seen others run into similar situations when they just didn't know that tagging people adds them to a group conversation.

@jdp23 @julian I've been pretty aware of this myself, but for some reason, on a few occasions I've replied to posts I thought were private, and were in fact public.

Nothing embarrassing though! It helps to just be nice to people privately *and* publicly.

@thenexusofprivacy @jdp23 @nexus @julian Hah, yeah, seeing mine!

Even though I've been in the fediverse for over a year now, and I'm pretty used to folks from different platforms talking to each other, it's still pretty fascinating to see this between platforms that I don't typically interact with.

Had the same sort of an "aha moment" with Lemmy not too long ago!

Yeah, it's amazing when it works. When I tag a Lemmy community in a pst here and it actually shows up as a thread there, it's very cool.

Unfortunately half the time I tag a Lemmy community it doesn't show up as a post there, and there's never indication way. So it's not always amazing. But still, it's amazing when it works!

@stefan @jdp23 @nexus @julian

@Stefan Bohacek @jdp23 @julian "Shadow mentioning" is a thing. (streams) and Forte do it to avoid clutter. Mentions don't have to be visible in a post/comment to work.