@BeAware

It cuts you off from more feedback than on other networks. And everyone that has something to say wants feedback, no matter what they say.

@angelastella I don't get that feeling, but‍️everyone has their own experiences I guess. I just know that since I'm on a single user instance, if people don't follow me and I don't follow them, posts don't federate.

@BeAware

Yeah, I think we should make a point of following (and boosting) people in single-user instances. There's a lot of prejudice about them. I try to do my part.

@angelastella @BeAware I'm new here can I ask what the prejudice is? I just wanna do my part in making people feel welcome!

@JustBobtholomew @angelastella in my experience, it's just difficulty in getting our posts seen across Fedi, because as we were discussing, Fedi works by follow relationships on a per instance basis and if I'm not followed, my posts might not reach certain instances.

This happens for every single user instance or instances with low amounts of users.

@JustBobtholomew @BeAware

AFAICT it boils down to "so they didn't find an instance that would tolerate them, huh?"

@angelastella @JustBobtholomew this too!

Luckily I haven't had much issue with this, but I definitely have seen it.

@angelastella @BeAware what! That seems so counterintuitive. That's the beauty of this place is that you can create the space you want.

@angelastella @BeAware Oh no, don't do that... Those single-user-instance guys are *the worst*....

@BeAware@social.beaware.live I will have to disagree with you on this one. I curate my timeline (especially in this day and age) and I don't want it full of posts about things I don't care about.

With this current account, I follow back more liberally (and I unfollow as liberally), but with my other account, I only want to see certain topics in my timeline, and if someone follows me but never talk about those topics, there is no chance I'll follow back.

I don't care about my follows/followers ratio (and people who do it here are seriously misunderstanding something) but I care very much about what appears in my timeline (I use filters too, but they can only do so much, especially when people don't contextualize their posts)

@DavidBHimself I use filters and lists.‍️

Also, if I didn't follow you, I wouldn't see your posts unless you mention me since I'm on my own instance, which is the major issue here and why I said what I said.

@BeAware@social.beaware.live Yes, but if you see my posts it's because you care about what I post (and that's why I follow you too.)

Why should I follow someone who posts about things that I have no interest in? Or things that upset me or annoy me? I want to have an usage of the fediverse that has a positive impact on my mental health, not a negative one.

Also, nowadays I unfollow Americans who never contextualize their posts because they think that everyone here is American or that foreigners don't matter. Fuck those people, even if they're lovely for everything else.

In other words, there are many reasons to follow or unfollow someone, it's not one size fits all.

@DavidBHimself i should have clarified that i meant i was referring to when there's an obvious interest alignment.

For example, I followed someone with a new account that was VERY into pro wrestling and only had 3 followers.

He thanked me for following him and asked me to boost his post to my followers so he could gain some traction. I did and suggested he follow me back because I wanted to banter with him about pro wrestling and he responded that he'd follow people back and boost, "in due time".

It just sucks because, at least for pro wrestling, there's not many people here discussing it. Therefore I want to discuss it with as many people as I can and if we don't all follow each other, we won't see each others posts because...well, fediverse.