Having looked through your modlog, it seems like you had a bit of trouble adjusting to the only newly broadly accepted ways that men and women can characterize themselves. It’s an adjustment, to be sure. Particularly without context.

Individual communities, sure, but not entire massive general instances. That's beyond stupid.

The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that....not so much.

Mine is a fairly broadly held opinion in the general public. Not well represented in niche online spaces though.

I dunno, man. People just want to feel safe and accepted and it costs little to adjust

Cool, so why don't you adjust to me instead? It's just as easy right?

The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that....not so much.

What about the ones that came here to avoid censorship elsewhere, but got banned here instead? Turns out lemmy.world and lemmy.ml don't like free speech.

It doesn't work so well when the majority of people are concentrated in one or another. It's like going into a Reddit admins pet project sub and then getting banned completely on Reddit because you broke that sub's rules.

The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that....not so much.

Sounds like censorship to me. I'm from the old internet where if you didn't like what somebody had to say you ignored them. Current internet is far too soft and full of safe spaces which will ban anybody for the slightest offenses.

The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that…not so much.

I left reddit at the same time for the same reason; found Lemmy, and honestly I've loved it. Looking at other comments, it looks like you're actually running an instance, so your interaction with the fediverse has been very different from mine... can definitely understand burnout from that angle!

I'd recommend just making an account on an established instance, then curating your personal feed reductively by blocking communities and posters whose content you're not interested in. That process will take weeks, but just keep passively blocking shit you don't want to see, and the quality of your experience will skyrocket.

Yeah I'm in the same boat. Though I will say, I have no personal experience of the stress and burden of running an instance myself. Especially one where the admins are actively trying to cultivate a non-toxic environment. That workload and the toxicity it exposes you to must be hell.

Personally I've had almost entirely positive experiences here, up to and including currently. But I stay out of politics, I've curated my subscriptions carefully and I never browse /all.

I almost exclusively browse /all, but I'm up to 897 blocked communities (sports and porn and sports and porn and sports and porn and sports and porn and sports and porn and...).

It takes some doing, but you can whittle /all down to something personalized and enjoyable to browse.

ml says “avoid criticizing Russia, china, North Korea, communism, communist figures, or cursing at our special little gremlins who will spew vileness at you entirely unprompted. But also don’t be a dick or deny atrocities, unless doing so interferes with any of the previously stated rules.”

If only! To be pedantic though, what Lemmy.ml actually says is:

A community of privacy and FOSS enthusiasts, run by Lemmy’s developers

and

No bigotry - including racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, or xenophobia.

Which (somehow?‍️🤪) translates to what you said, except... no wait, it does not? Hence it says one thing (my quotes) while doing exactly the opposite (your quotes), in point of fact.

On the other hand, there's the "trust me bro, i iz total1y relaibles" defense, otherwise known as "nuh-uh, I know you are but what am I?"

Because while it is human nature to be wrong sometimes, it might be best not to actively wallow in it? (See also: Hexbear, Lemmygrad.ml, and some smaller ones such as midwest.social)

Is there really that much sports on Lemmy? For the longest time it seemed completely barren. Even now Soccer is just having stable but very minor activity. Formula 1 is fairly active though I guess.

And that just sounds like too much work. Much easier to see what you want to see on /subscribed and then put the phone away.

I'm not in this picture.

I'm not in this picture.

The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that....not so much.

Well why are you here