what do i do now i only use jerboa how do i change instances

We arguably ARE the most lgbtq instance that isn't specifically about lgbtqia+ (it is about radical leftism which is inseperable from lgbtqia+ rights and liberation). And nah, my reaction is 100% appropriate here. What's more, hexbear is known for taking long and difficult looks into the mirror, to a degree liberal instances could never hope to do. Our resolute dedication to rooting out and correcting misogyny, racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism and even just plain unrecognized privilege is well known and easily confirmed by looking at our history. Whatever lgbtq instance defederated from us was not because of homophobia or transphobia or anything like that, but rather their unwillingness to address the chasers infesting their community and our subsequent unwillingness to tolerate that kind of behavior and keep it from eroding the safe space that has been built through hard work and the dedication especially of the many trans people that make up our community. Trying to paint hexbear as anything other than in complete full support of lgbtqia+, which the vast majority of us are, is absurd and insulting.

Tell me about it. My JSON file with all my settings won't upload, so l have to start over, day one.

Is blocking an instance the same as defederation? I found lemmy.today the other day and they don't block any instances.

lemmy.today doesn't block any instances. But db0 is good too, I've been happy with it.

Are you saying lemmy.today is no good?

I think so but https://lemmy.today/instances doesn't have any blocked instances at all, which can't be good lol

I really liked lemm.ee because it didn't defederate from the radical socialist and communist spectrum of political speech.

But the other issue with a bigger instance like lemm.ee going down is that as long as communities can't be moved (including users and content) to other instances, the lemmy project will fail. Because then only centralization in a few big instances is viable, and those big instances are going to become valuable and sold to plutocrats.

Yeah, SDF is a good choice (and a very interesting org in its own right)

i think the point is that there is no single lemmy server - so if you want to put in the work and set up a server you never check up on, yeah sure whatever this isn't legal advice.

But also, if people wanna set up a space that bans the most obnoxious behavior while cultivating real conversation, they can do that too.

You should probably ask about this in !home@lemmy.zip

Go to https://lemm.ee/settings in a web browser (I'm not sure its in jerboa), and export your settings.
Make an account at lemmy.zip or lemmy.cafe, go to settings there, and import the settings file.

then, log out of jerboa, and log in with your new account.

That's a disturbingly good point.

Can you explain why Lemmy.zip or Lemmy.cafe specifcaly?

With .ml you can sometimes still have a good discussion. Maybe because the community is so big. And not everyone who joins knows ml stands for Marxist-Leninist.

But those other 2 are chock full of extremists.

You mean the biggest instance that is still federated with close to everyone?

There is a reason for that you know.

I'm sorry but the best is dbzero. Lemm.ee was a damn good instance too though

Yeah, because they're the one that tries the most to be exactly like Reddit, so all the Redditors end up there.

.ml is basically federated with everyone

I hope you're not calling tankies radical socialists or communists. Because .ml et al are authoritarian instances, not lefty.