I honestly haven't put too much thought into it yet, but I joined sh.itjust.works and db0 because I've seen some of their users around and thought they were cool.

Assuming you're talking about moss (the admin, not the plant), she mentioned that they didn't try to leave because of anything due to neopronouns (and she mentioned this is the post).
It was because of Ada moderating communities as well, and being (in her opinion), overbearing.

FWIW, the migration was botched, and everyone's at !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone now.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't hexbear also block LBZ? If so, why's that?

Yeah I was gonna try out piefed and mbin but if those don’t work out for me any lemmy instance suggestions? J was thinking lemmy.zip or any instance who only defederates with spam/illegal stuff

Community cultures, mostly, as trimmed and pruned by admins. Most instances I don't notice massive differences in, with a few exceptions.

It was because of Ada moderating communities as well, and being (in her opinion), overbearing.

Wasn't all of that done when some of the cis members of the community were getting extremely angry at Ada for the new pronouns moderation? Like, sure, they stated it wasn't because of the new pronoun position, but it seems pretty clear that Ada embraced a position that was closer to the hardline pro-trans position of Hexbear and it pushed a ton of people away.

And yeah, we have them defedded because of chasers in their 196 comm making our trans users feel unsafe.

They sound like they want to speak to the manager.

That's an unfortunate situation with slrpnk.net. Not having anyone able to physically access a server for weeks was really tempting fate, though.

Tell them to offer an old-lemmy frontend then

Upon closer look, you guys didn't block them: hexbear.net/instances

Anyway, I don't think people were really pushed away from LBZ, it was just the 196 thing and a few people gettin banned for pissing themselves about neopronouns.

In any case, the 196 community wanted to stay, the alternate comm is more popular (by MAU) than the original.

There are some sites that show what instances are de-federated from that. People can use that as a guide as well, if there are instances they don't really want feeds from due to their underlying circumstances. They should also check the admins and modlog so they don't run into surprises later down the line.

Probably people getting down voted like crazy for asking simple questions isn't really good for retention or growth. Late stage reddit behavior. Guess lemmy is going to speed run all of the downside of reddit.

It's wise to not give a fuck about downvotes. They can't hurt you. You can't make it right for everyone. And that's okay. Sometimes you say stuff that agrees with a couple of people. Sometimes you don't. Questions included, as some might see those as a statement. You're free to do the same. Isn't democracy beautiful?

Thanks this is helpful, but first server recommended was lemmy.ml 🤮

sorry but your form of extremism wouldve resulted in the same thing.

if that is true, why are so many instances blocking yours and 2 others? your no better than your conservative counterparts. you cant escape liking authorianism and liking communism, it doesnt work like that.

mmmmm this comment is prolly one of my faves. tagline worthy

The reason many instances block ours is that the majority of Lemmy users are reactionary liberals from imperialist countries that really, really hate seeing anything that counters their narrative about being enlightened progressives. A huge number of you probably have made a myth in your mind that compared to your older, more culturally conservative relatives, you're basically as compassionate and left wing as it gets. Then you interact with communists who point out how imperialism works and how you benefit from it, as well as the action that is necessary to end that exploitaiton, and it shakes you to your core that you aren't as left as it gets. No, I can't be out of touch, it's the hundreds of millions of leftists in the imperial periphery who are wrong

To make it exceedingly clear: here you are, accusing us of not being able to escape liking authoritarianism, but your own liberal positions are currently either passively accepting or actively encouraging a genocide of 2 million people in Gaza. You might say you are opposed to that, but in practice you keep condemning the radical groups that actually are doing what's necessary to end the genocide (i.e. the Resistance in the actual countries aftected and orgs like Palestine Action and the PSL in the West) because they're "authoritarian leftists" or even worse, antisemites.

Actually my form of extremism is literally "indigenous people get sovereignty over their own land" so no, try again.

I did my part. Time for my retro gaming lemmy era already bought all the stuff I need to put freehdboot on my ps2.

It was great while it lasted, and I thank those that ran it. A breath of fresh air after initially being on an instance that decided to nanny its users by defederating from instances for no good reasons.

I have a backup account on sdf.org, so I'm now using that as my main instance. Thanks to those who run it.

Apparently db0 and lemmy.zip are two such instances that broadly federate